How often do we compromise the truth of who we are to keep the peace, gain approval or attempt to keep ourselves safe?

I’ve always thought of myself as an honest person. But over the last year and a half, I’ve had to reckon with honesty.

How many times have I said yes when I’ve meant no? How often have I lowered my standards out of fear of rejection? How often have I believed that, “This is as good as it’s going to get…” and then denied the slow erosion of my hopes and dreams? How often have I manipulated my own expression to be palatable?

If I’m being honest, more times than I’d like to admit.

Our lives speak. They mirror back to us where we are not telling ourselves the truth about who we are, what we truly desire, and what we stand for.

Look at your life. Are you where you want to be? Do you have the types of relationships you desire? Do you do work that gives you a sense of purpose? Are you chronically stressed? Do you want to blame others or feel victimized?

Learning to be more honest requires listening to our bodies. They will guide us. They will tell us what feels good, expansive and right. They will also tell us what feels anxiety producing, restrictive and empty.

I know it can feel scary to tell the truth, to forgo what might “look” good and wait for that which is truly good. But it is worth the wait, because as we begin to tell the truth it will set us free.

Sending all my love, xo